Some facebook site linked to me yesterday I guess because I got way more traffic than usual … sometimes I can’t tell if they are pro-trans or right wing sites or whatever that link … and it is hard to gauge by comments. I got a few comments on my site yesterday (it has been a long time since that happened) and it is nice to have some interest around here but I have to say that reading some of them DID make me feel a bit uneasy. It is like the comments, when they get going on my site … become this other entity unto themselves separate from what I am trying t do here.
I really do believe that there is a way that we can talk about these difficult issues without further stigmatizing Trans people. I have said this before, but I have a lot of Trans friends. I think it is unfair to say that all Trans people are delusional. More than that, I believe it is untrue.
In every post that I have written, even though I am critical of a lot of things within the Trans movement, I always strive to be respectful towards Trans people. It was that way since day one. I think I have done a pretty good job. Have I always gotten it right? No. But I am open to learning.
I want this to be a safe space for all. I don’t want to use triggering language. I don’t want to demean people or their lifestyles where they are not doing harm to others. I do want to continue to critical of things that I think are wrong, but looking more at broken systems or challenging paradigms that may not be as helpful as was once thought. I am going to be doing this mindfully and in a way that respects all. If someone comes here I don’t want them to be unnecessarily made more anxious or fearful than when they came to this site. That is the opposite of what this site is about. But I do want people to think.
I am holding back on publishing some of the comments today and I will start being more careful about what I let through. I don’t want conversation to spiral into vitriol. Maybe that means nobody will comment here … so be it. I do want to see conversation going forward on this topic, at least in this space of my blog, as having the civility and respect for diversity that I am drawn to in the conversations I engage in in the “real world”.
I am considering other changes to this site as well in terms of content featured. If you have any thoughts feel free to let me know.
Last weekend sucked … let’s have a better one this time around. Don’t stop living. I like light and lightness … in these times more than ever. If you are in Hillcrest tomorrow night maybe I’ll see you at the Trans Day of Remembrance.